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Why 'Demure' and Parenting Don't Mix

Why 'Demure' and Parenting Don't Mix

Embrace the chaos - because demure won’t cut it in parenting

Javaree Walker
August 18, 2024

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The 'Demure trend' on TikTok, initiated by Jools Lebron, a Puerto Rican creator, on August 2, humorously juxtaposes the conventional notion of being 'demure' with situations that are anything but—like parenting. This trend, which involves people acting in a reserved and modest manner, starkly contrasts mindful parenting. Mindful parenting, especially with toddlers, is about being fully present and responsive to children's needs, embracing their high energy and chaotic nature. This approach fosters emotional growth, confidence, and a strong parent-child bond, allowing children to thrive authentically.

Furthermore, being 'demure' is a far cry from the reality of raising children, especially toddlers. Mindful parenting, on the other hand, is all about being present and responsive to your child's needs, which often involves embracing childhood's lively, energetic, and sometimes chaotic nature. This approach encourages parents to create a safe environment for children to express themselves fully and fosters emotional growth, confidence, and a strong sense of self. It's a parenting style that genuinely allows children to thrive, bringing joy and fulfillment to both parents and children.

Parenting is a dynamic and active process, far from the calm and reserved demeanor implied by being 'demure.' It requires patience, adaptability, and the willingness to engage with your child's world, even when it means stepping out of traditional roles. Mindful parenting values authenticity over perfection and encourages parents to be fully present, meeting their child's energy and emotions with understanding and support. This approach strengthens the parent-child bond and empowers children to thrive as unique individuals, confident in their ability to navigate the world. As a parent, seeing your child grow and thrive in this way can bring a deep sense of pride and satisfaction.

Here are 3 ways to stay mindful:

1) Focus entirely on the moment with your child, setting aside distractions like phones or work. This will allow you to connect deeply and better understand their needs.

2) listen without interrupting or planning your response when your child speaks. Show empathy by acknowledging their feelings and thoughts.

3) Take a moment to breathe before responding to challenging behavior. This helps you address the situation with calmness and understanding, fostering a positive environment