When We're Away, We're Still Dad

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In This Week’s Newsletter:

• Quote of the Week - “A child’s resilience is rooted in the resilience of the adults in their lives…adult resilience is rooted on the depth and support in our relationships.”

• Javaree Talks - Providing emotional support from a distance

• In the News - Children’s resilience

• A Good Listen - “Am I a bad dad?”

• Good on Social - Your calm is th

• Money Moves - Use Monarch to monitor your spending and your networth

JAVAREE TALKS 

Last week, I spent four bedtime routines, in New York City, without my kids. It was the longest I’d been away from the family, and it gave me a chance to reflect on how much I’ve grown as a father.

I know fatherhood doesn’t stop just because I’m out of town. Even when away, I can still show up for my family meaningfully.

Here’s what I did to stay connected:

• I sent short videos in the morning, just 20- 30-second messages to say I miss you, have a great day at school, and I can’t wait to hear about the day.

• I made nightly video calls, especially before bedtime, to keep up our routine.

• I prepared multiple meals before leaving to ease my wife’s daily load.

That last one matters more than it might seem!

If you’re unfamiliar with the phrase, the “mom tax” refers to the invisible labor many moms carry: managing routines, keeping up with clothes sizes, being the "default parent" for bedtime, and more. When one parent is away, that tax gets even heavier. By prepping ahead, I wasn’t just making things easier; I was honoring the partnership on which my parenting is built.

Our kids feel secure when we show up with consistency. Whether it’s your presence or a bedtime message, these small acts tell your child, “You’re on my mind. You matter.”

When you lighten your partner’s load, even in small ways, you reinforce that parenting is a team sport. It's not just about the tasks you complete but the message you send that you're there for each other, supporting and sharing parenting responsibilities.

As you plan your next work trip or a long day away, consider what three things you could prep or plan to stay present with your kids and lighten the family load?

IN THE NEWS

A GOOD LISTEN

Here are some key takeaways from the "Am I a Bad Dad?" episode featuring Hasan Minhaj and Dr. Becky:

1. Feeling Like a Bad Dad Means You Care

The fear of being a “bad parent” is common, and it usually signals that you’re invested, self-aware, and NOT failing.

2. Repair Matters More Than Being Perfect

You will mess up. What matters most is how you reconnect after repair builds trust and shows your kids what accountability looks like.

3. Regulate Yourself First

Your calm is contagious. You're taking control of the situation by mastering your own emotions before helping your child through theirs. Remember, emotional regulation starts with you.

4. Your Inner Child Shows Up, Too

Parenting often activates your childhood wounds. It's okay to feel this way. Get curious about your reactions, sometimes they’re more about you than your kid. Acknowledging your inner child is a step towards understanding and healing.

5. Connection Beats Control

Instead of focusing on discipline, shift toward understanding. Remember, kids thrive when they feel seen, not silenced. Trust in the power of connection over control.

GOOD ON SOCIAL

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MONEY MOVES

One of the most important things a dad can do for a family is take control of his finances. Tracking your income, spending, and investments provides peace of mind and relief, setting a strong foundation for your family’s future.

I use Monarch to stay on top of everything. It’s a game-changer for organizing finances, budgeting, and long-term planning. It’s empowered me to create a system that works for my family, and I highly recommend it.

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