When Dad Can't Do It All

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In This Week’s Newsletter:

• Quote of The Week - Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage - Brene Brown

• Javaree Talks - When Letting Go Leads to Growth

• In The News - Top stories from last week

JAVAREE TALKS

Last week, I had outpatient surgery, which kept me away from work for a few days.

Not only did it take me from work, but it also took me away from everyday life at home!

As a guy who is used to doing a lot for himself and being there for his family, it was tough not to physically do everyday things, especially with my doctors recommending not lifting more than 15 pounds for the next four weeks. My eight-month-old daughter is 15 pounds, and my son is about 40 pounds, so imagine that.

Experiencing physical vulnerability after surgery can be deeply humbling. This vulnerability is crucial for the kind of parent I am and want to continue to be because it connects me to my core humanity. Here’s how I see it tying into my parenting:

Having to rely on others, like my wife and mother-in-law, allowed me to appreciate what it’s like to depend on help and support. My son, especially being a preschooler, is in a constant state of dependence. This experience reminds me of child’s fragility and helps me approach their needs with greater empathy.

Our children learn by observing us. By embracing our vulnerability, we show them that it’s okay to ask for help, not have all the answers, and face struggles openly. This type of leadership helps them build emotional resilience and the courage to admit when they need support, which is healthy.

Creating an environment where my children feel they can trust me with their vulnerabilities deepens our emotional connection. It teaches them that they are safe to be their authentic selves, even when they’re feeling weak or uncertain, which will happen if they are growing.

As I recover, I’m gaining strength and new perspectives. Similarly, in my parenting, challenges are opportunities for growth for the whole family, not just me. By sharing these experiences without lectures, I’m teaching my kids that difficult moments can lead to greater personal development.

It's a journey we're all on, and it's exciting to see where it takes us.

One of the most challenging parts of this experience was releasing control and relying on others, and it serves as a key reminder that I can’t control everything about my children’s journeys. Allowing for flexibility and shared responsibility helps build a more balanced dynamic where we all grow together. We're all in this together, and that's what makes it so rewarding.

Here are some takeaways about vulnerability:

1. Embrace imperfection: It’s okay not to have everything under control. By showing vulnerability, we teach our children that making mistakes and needing help are part of life. It's a relief to know that we don't have to be perfect, and that's a lesson we can all benefit from.

2. Model emotional openness: Sharing our feelings shows our children that it’s safe to express emotions

3. Ask for help: Needing help doesn’t make us weak. By asking for support, we demonstrate that collaboration and mutual reliance are strengths, not weaknesses.

IN THE NEWS

DAD JOKE OF THE WEEK

What do ghosts use to wash their hair?

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