How to Set Limits That Stick

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In This Week’s Newsletter:

• Quote of The Week - Don't worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you - Robert Fulghum

• Javaree Talks - How We Set Limits Matters More Than We Think 

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JAVAREE TALKS 

Kids aren’t always consistent, and honestly, neither are we. One day, we laugh as they jump on the couch, and the next, we firmly tell them to stop. It’s normal, but this inconsistency can confuse kids and set them up for failure.

Setting limits isn’t just about what we say but how we say it. You’ve heard that before, right? It’s so true! For instance, instead of saying, “‘Stop jumping on the couch!” ‘we could say, “Hey, let’s keep our feet on the floor, okay?” Our tone, body language, and energy can create connection or fuel resistance. A harsh tone, extra bass in our voice, or aggressive energy can turn a simple request into a power struggle.

So what can we do instead?

• Deliver directives with warmth. Try smiling or using a playful tone when it fits the moment. “Shoe “on, Spiderman!” might work better than a stern, “Put your shoes on right now!”

• Be clear, not confusing. Sometimes, we soften requests too much to sound kind and ask, “Would you like to put your sneakers on?” But when the answer can easily be no, we’re intentionally setting up resistance. Instead, try saying, “Please put your shoes on.” Or create awareness without the pressure by saying, “Hey, you haven’t put your shoes on yet.” Then, pause to let them make the move.

• Hold the limit without the tension. Limits don’t feel like a battle. When we show up calm and clear, we allow our kids to follow through without feeling pushed or shamed. This clear and calm communication empowers us as dads, giving us a sense of control in our interactions with our children.

Setting limits teaches more than just the rule itself; it’s a foundation for effective communication, respect for boundaries, and the ability to respond to directions. These skills will serve your child well beyond childhood, giving you hope for their future.

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