How I Got My Son To Give Karate A Try

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JAVAREE TALKS 

It’s easy to expect kids to control their emotions and behaviors the way we do as adults. But their brains aren’t fully developed yet—especially the areas responsible for impulse control and emotional regulation. Expecting a four-year-old to stay calm during frustration is like expecting them to run a marathon—they’re not ready yet. The part of the brain that allows impulse control, emotional regulation, and even logic and reasoning.

I saw this play out firsthand when my son started karate class this year. At first, he wasn’t excited about going. Some days, getting him out the door felt like an uphill battle, and I questioned whether I should push him (because we don't quit in this house) or just let it go (because I don't want him scarred).

But instead of forcing the issue, I met him where he was. I had several conversations with him, trying to understand why he resisted. I made some assumptions but wanted to get to what he was thinking so I could address it directly. Was he nervous about the new environment? Overwhelmed by something in class? Once I took the time to listen, I realized his hesitation was less about not wanting to go and more about feeling uncertain. We could work through his discomfort by acknowledging his emotions and reassuring him.

The update? This weekend, he finally entered the class on his own, well, sort of. His Sensei carried him in, but he participated and had a great time! Watching him engage, smile, and participate in something that once felt intimidating reminded me why patience and connection matter. It wasn’t about forcing him into the class but giving him the space and support to get there on his terms.

When children struggle with big emotions, they aren’t defiant or manipulative; they’re often overwhelmed. Punishing them for this natural developmental process doesn’t teach emotional regulation; it teaches fear and avoidance. Instead, guiding them through these challenging moments with patience and connection is key. It helps lay the foundation for self-regulation skills later in life.

The next time your child resists something or has a meltdown, pause and ask yourself: How can I meet them where they are? Instead of reacting with frustration, try shifting your mindset. How can you guide them through this moment instead of punishing them for it? This shift in perspective will help you understand their struggles and respond with empathy and guidance, fostering a more understanding relationship.

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